Are they less men if they take care of their children?

In my first days after my arrival on the European continent, I could not help noticing the parents who were walking in the streets and pushing the baby carriage of their children while the mothers walked with their hands-free taking advantage of the view to the shop windows.

In one of my observations, I noticed a father who was walking with his daughter and I could not stop listening to their conversation. He was telling the little girl that after their snack time – that they were apparently having a great time – they would go directly to the theatre to watch one of those pieces for children.

I was amazed and impressed to get here and see how active the dads are in life and parenting.

You see, I’m not saying they’re perfect. This opinion is based on a few quick situations that I found on the street or by the mall. Compared to what I was used to see every day in South America, I dare to say that the Europeans are Super Parents.

If you are looking at the countries of South America or the emerging countries, you will find that only mothers do this, and it seems to me that for parents only just a few minutes of fun after their arrival from work and that’s it. His part was already done.

And maybe that’s why coming across the news about a study that was done in partnership with King’s College London pointed out that the mentality of most men in emerging countries believes that parents staying at home caring for their children are less men.

But the worst of all is not this, is that during the research it was discovered that women agree with this insanity!

I really can’t understand.

How can women consider that their partner will be less of a man if he takes care of their children?

Surprised is how I feel that in times when the woman speaks and shouts to the four winds of the planet about Female Empowerment women may think like that.

All that has been done so that people’s mindset can be changed and that men can be made aware that their participation and contribution in the life of their children should be equal to what the woman already does. And this includes yes, if necessary, the man staying at home taking care of his children while the woman goes out to work.

After all, what’s the problem?

It is clear that the culture and family traditions that each country carries and teaches over the years and years, directly and indirectly, interfere with this thought.

I believe that while we still have women who also think that way makes it a little harder to change that mindset for men.

If we stop to think these women will be teaching their children that they should be the providers of their family when they grow up and that their wives should stay at home taking care of their respective children.

We need to teach and be taught both sides of the coin.

I do not bother, or I care that a woman wants to be fully caring for the house and the children. I honestly do not mind if a woman does not want to marry or have children because she wants to be just a business person.

And I think that’s it. We must understand that’s fine.

In the end, it does not matter who will stay at home taking care of kids. The important is that they grow up good citizens and full of character.

Lu is a multifaceted woman. From South America, living the dream of living in Europe, writing and enjoying the most of life ;-)

  1. Martika Shanel

    Nice post, Donna. This type of thinking is brilliant–let’s remove labels and just be; whatever role that is.

    July 6, 2019

    • Donna

      Thanks Martika!
      I do hope people start doing that 🙂

      July 8, 2019

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