Love in 2019? nowadays it’s dying or in extinction

Here is my humble opinion. Get ready.

Like me, many other people – whether single or married – are attracted to the idea and glamor of living in Europe.

A couple of Mexicans, in their late twenties, were landing in Europe with the dream of a better life and renewing the vows of their good marriage that were lasting. She was beautiful. Brunette, tall, long light brown hair and hazel eyes. He was a natural athletic man, one of those who didn’t have to spend even once a week going to the gym. Tall, teasing black hair and eyes.

Upon their arrival, they spent the first weeks exploring the city. Afternoons visiting parks, spending time under the sun and making plans that they didn’t know at the time they would never make it.

A single woman, in her thirties, from Brazil, lands on European lands. Mysterious and very attractive, after a quick recognition of territory, it doesn’t take long for her to have her first date. A rising actor who was finishing a deal for a major TV series to be produced in Canada.

The single woman spends the next few weeks walking around the city alongside the handsome actor, getting to know the city’s restaurants, the best bars, exploring the mountains, picnics on the lakeside in the late afternoon, visiting nearby towns … Like two Romantic lovers.

And you are wondering what these two cases have in common?

In either case, they believed that love was in the air and that they would be happily ever after. The couple felt that because they had been together for many years and because they were happy and feeling victorious with the fact that they were able to move to the European continent. They were feeling connected as never before. The single woman because although she was not looking for a relationship, she felt the romance. And she was also loving the attention, the time, the pampering, and the whims the handsome guy was giving her.

For the couple, the change would reinforce their love for each other. For the single woman, the actor was showing all the signs of a man who is in love and aiming for a future together. After all, he even said that they should go live together in a couple of weeks since he was going to move to a new house!

And in both cases, you could say that there was love there. And that is why when suddenly it was over in neither case they saw what happened.

Someone clearly forgot to tell them that now they were in Europe and here no one is looking for love.

Welcome to the land of emotionally freedom – or unavailability.

Feel free to stroll the streets of cities that have given their beauty as a romantic background to romantic couples on the movies. But don’t forget, those romantic tales happen only on the big screens.

You will not live Gil’s experiences like in Midnight in Paris or meet the love of your life as you explore Juliet’s House as happened with Claire in Letters to Juliet. And do you know why? No one else is looking for love!

Dating apps got this very well. We are all so busy with our own lives, our desires and wishes. We want someone who is and behaves the way we think the other has or should behave. We no longer have the time, patience or even want to understand our partner, accept their failings and work together to improve and develop as a couple.

Cupid has turned into a digital offering from potential partners.

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard women say they found the perfect guy and were very much in love and at the end of the fifth or sixth date for some bullshit reason or detail gave up on. And on the next day, they turned back to the digital showcase of offers for possible dates.

And these dates often end in casual sex, friendships with benefits, just friendships, and no romance. After all, why waste time and wait for things to happen if there is an endless supply of potential partners within our reach?

Why have the constant love of one person if we can share the love of many people at the same time?

And it didn’t take too long before the couple and the single woman understood that around here “The only relationship that reigns is the relationship that you commit to yourself but keep open to the world.”

“And what if I decide I want a single, one and true love in my life?”

Either you are in your forties or you need to move the continent because among the young people love is in extinction.

Lu is a multifaceted woman. From South America, living the dream of living in Europe, writing and enjoying the most of life ;-)

  1. Such a great and insightful read. The search for love can be blinding sometimes…
    P. S you’re an awesome writer.

    August 14, 2019

  2. This is so true. It’s even true about making friends once we are out of college. Beyond work, because we are so consumed with our own lives, I feel like we just don’t meet people anymore.

    August 17, 2019

  3. Unfortunately, I have to agree. It’s such a shame when all one wants in their bloody 30s is to settle down with someone worth looking at and listening to for longer than 2 weeks… I get bored easily, no matter if it’s humans or a country I live in, and it makes finding a man a nightmare. But you might be right; maybe there’s no man to be found anyway. Remains to be seen…

    Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

    August 22, 2019

  4. I definitely feel like it’s way harder to meet people nowadays! Life keeps everybody super busy.

    August 22, 2019

  5. Great read. Dating these days just seems like such a minefield.

    August 26, 2019

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